Are You Allowing Yourself To Be Upset Over Little Things? - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

aasharon90 · 08-18-2006, 03:53 PM

Hi Im Sharon and Im an alcoholic

I am definitely guilty of getting upset
over the littlest things in my life. Then I
heard others in meetings say," it's not
the big stuff you have to worry or sweat
over or about, but rather the small things.

If you have any doubt, just ask any of the
older members of the A.A. group, and they
will readily tell you that since they turned
their lives over to care of a HP as they
understand Him, many of their problems
have banished into the forgotten yesterdays.

When you allow yourself to be upset over
one thing, you suceed only in opening the
door from the coming of hundreds of other
upsetting things?

**Peter** · 08-18-2006, 05:22 PM

Quote:

Are You Allowing Yourself To Be Upset Over Little Things?

Yes! The cd player in my truck is acting up and I'm really pissed

aasharon90 · 08-18-2006, 06:27 PM

Sorry Peter to hear about ur CD player in ur truck
is acting up.

I'd be pissed too. But, however....
I still have my radio.

It's not the same....but it would do until the CD player
is fixed or replaced.

Sometimes things happen for a reason...

Maybe a little quiet time is needed for awhile.

Have you ever just turned off the noise in ur car or
truck for awhile.....just drive with silence....in a way its
kinda peaceful.....

I do however LOVE MUSIC and yes i do crank mine up ALL
the time....so i need to take my own advice some times. : )

Hope u get ur cd player fixed.

I would well not to think of the Red Sea of
difficulties that lie ahead. I am sure when I
come to that Red Sea, the waters will part and I will
be given all the power I need to face and overcome
many difficulties and meet what is in store for me
with courage. I believe that I will pass through that
Red Sea to the promise land, the land of the spirit
where many souls meet in perfect comradeship. I be-
lieve that when that time comes. I will be be freed of
all the dross of material things and find peace.

2dayzmuse · 08-18-2006, 07:47 PM

It is human nature to get upset over things, big or little. I think it is how we handle it that matters. Yes, I'm guilty of letting little things make me angry. It happens before I even realize it. Often times, I can see it coming and ward it off, sometimes I can't. When I realize what I am doing, I work on letting it go. I hate to have little things eat at me. I realize that is what drove me to drink back in the day. The amazing thing is, I can be fretting one minute and have it be forgotten the next. Progress...

fraankie · 08-19-2006, 07:58 PM

so true

best
fraankie

liveweyerd · 08-19-2006, 08:21 PM

Define little things.

daveagle · 08-19-2006, 08:52 PM

i guess little things that upset me are:

looking for a clean cup-there aren't any
shoe-lace snapping when i'm leaving the house
my sons telling me that they need money i do not have for things that i do not know because i have not been told

and many more...

these are not important and can be solved in a flash

strangely, bigger things that should worry me, do not:

un-paid credit card bill-like they don't earn enough money already
tax return-give us money now because you owe it and we never make mistakes!

dave

aasharon90 · 11-11-2006, 07:43 PM

Refreshing this topic for u to share ur
ESH with me and the newer members
just joining SR.

**CarolD** · 11-11-2006, 10:10 PM

I think this fits quite well here..

November 11, 2006

Powerless

I've learned that I do not have the power and control
I once thought I had.
I am powerless over what people think about me.
I am powerless over having just missed the bus.
I am powerless over how other people work
(or don't work) the Steps.
But I've also learned I am not powerless over some things.
I am not powerless over my attitudes.
I am not powerless over negativity.
I am not powerless over assuming responsibility
for my own recovery.
I have the power to exert a positive influence on myself,
my loved ones, and the world in which I live.

Reprinted from Daily Reflections, Page 11, with permission of A.A. World Services, Inc.

***chip*** · 11-11-2006, 10:22 PM

I'm getting better at keeping my temper in check. I havn't punched any holes in the walls sober.
chip

utopia · 11-12-2006, 08:51 PM

yes, defining is tricky, how important is it?

i find its for me when it has to do with boundaries, resulting in inevitable conflict, facing my powerlessness. i pray for forgiveness, detachment and acceptance but above all courage to take action on my behalf and speak gods words with love but respect as well. i find messy people infuriating. god grant me the serenity!!! is it ever just about those bloody dishes

aasharon90 · 11-13-2006, 04:01 AM

I hear you all loud and clear. Thanks for sharing with
me and others. It is much appreciated. : )

collinsmi · 11-14-2006, 03:52 PM

It doesn't seem like I "allow" myself to get upset, some stupid little thing will happen and there I am, upset! Unconsciously, I'll even LOOK for things to get upset about. THank God for steps 10, 11 and the things I've learned about myself in this program.

utopia · 11-15-2006, 11:23 PM

i got courage to change out over my last "im upset and i ''shouldnt'' be" hmm. well i found that s when STEP 2 really helps, also anything in the index relating to CONFLICT/DISAGREEMENT as well as DETACHMENT. it changed my whole mindset and i could face the situation calmer, in fact, i didnt have to do anything after i had calmed down anyway, such was the miracle of handing it over.

aasharon90 · 11-16-2006, 03:48 AM

What's the saying..or how does that saying go?

IT'S NOT THE BIG STUFF WE HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT,
BUT THE SMALL THINGS....

DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL THINGS.....

Is that right?

brigid · 11-16-2006, 08:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by utopia

yes, defining is tricky, how important is it?

I think for each of us what is a little thing or a big thing might be quite different. It all depends. Let go, go, go .. then be amazed at the difference in your life.

I have so much joy without the anger now. It is soooooooooooo much better. Remember that anger will not solve, it will get in the way, it will physically hurt you and anyone else you love who is around it. Let it go, however you can.

love and peace

utopia · 11-16-2006, 09:13 PM

someone once said (i forget who as i tend to thankfully now focus on the message more than the messenger) anyway someone once said in courage to change, that whether i understand things will be just the way they are, if i dont, things will be just the way they are. so whe something is upsetting me that good serenity prayer is really mature and frankly good common sense that saves me a lot of grief and dramatisation and sometimes to realise that its ok to feel what i feel, to know what im feeling is huge mark of progress. awareness, acceptance, action.

aasharon90 · 11-28-2006, 05:28 PM

Bumping up this topic for you to share
ur own ESH with us....

08-18-2006, 03:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 2,749	Are You Allowing Yourself To Be Upset Over Little Things? Hi Im Sharon and Im an alcoholic I am definitely guilty of getting upset over the littlest things in my life. Then I heard others in meetings say," it's not the big stuff you have to worry or sweat over or about, but rather the small things. If you have any doubt, just ask any of the older members of the A.A. group, and they will readily tell you that since they turned their lives over to care of a HP as they understand Him, many of their problems have banished into the forgotten yesterdays. When you allow yourself to be upset over one thing, you suceed only in opening the door from the coming of hundreds of other upsetting things? __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON M. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 "Made A Decision To Turn My Will And Life Over To The Care Of God As I Understand Him."

08-18-2006, 06:27 PM	#3 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 2,749	Sorry Peter to hear about ur CD player in ur truck is acting up. I'd be pissed too. But, however.... I still have my radio. It's not the same....but it would do until the CD player is fixed or replaced. Sometimes things happen for a reason... Maybe a little quiet time is needed for awhile. Have you ever just turned off the noise in ur car or truck for awhile.....just drive with silence....in a way its kinda peaceful..... I do however LOVE MUSIC and yes i do crank mine up ALL the time....so i need to take my own advice some times. : ) Hope u get ur cd player fixed. I would well not to think of the Red Sea of difficulties that lie ahead. I am sure when I come to that Red Sea, the waters will part and I will be given all the power I need to face and overcome many difficulties and meet what is in store for me with courage. I believe that I will pass through that Red Sea to the promise land, the land of the spirit where many souls meet in perfect comradeship. I be- lieve that when that time comes. I will be be freed of all the dross of material things and find peace. __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON M. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 "Made A Decision To Turn My Will And Life Over To The Care Of God As I Understand Him."

08-19-2006, 08:21 PM	#6 (permalink)
liveweyerd Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: central Florida Posts: 7,292 Blog Entries: 5	Define little things. __________________ Each small candle lights a corner of the dark....Roger Waters

08-19-2006, 08:52 PM	#7 (permalink)
daveagle Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: bristol Posts: 15	i guess little things that upset me are: looking for a clean cup-there aren't any shoe-lace snapping when i'm leaving the house my sons telling me that they need money i do not have for things that i do not know because i have not been told and many more... these are not important and can be solved in a flash strangely, bigger things that should worry me, do not: un-paid credit card bill-like they don't earn enough money already tax return-give us money now because you owe it and we never make mistakes! dave __________________ my precious, precious child, i love you and i would never leave you. During your time of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that i carried you.

11-11-2006, 07:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 2,749	Refreshing this topic for u to share ur ESH with me and the newer members just joining SR. __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON M. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 "Made A Decision To Turn My Will And Life Over To The Care Of God As I Understand Him."

08-18-2006, 07:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
2dayzmuse Paused Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Washington Posts: 5,083	It is human nature to get upset over things, big or little. I think it is how we handle it that matters. Yes, I'm guilty of letting little things make me angry. It happens before I even realize it. Often times, I can see it coming and ward it off, sometimes I can't. When I realize what I am doing, I work on letting it go. I hate to have little things eat at me. I realize that is what drove me to drink back in the day. The amazing thing is, I can be fretting one minute and have it be forgotten the next. Progress...

08-19-2006, 07:58 PM	#5 (permalink)
fraankie Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: brooklyn, new york Posts: 1,402	so true best fraankie

11-11-2006, 10:10 PM	#9 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 16,036	I think this fits quite well here.. November 11, 2006 Powerless I've learned that I do not have the power and control I once thought I had. I am powerless over what people think about me. I am powerless over having just missed the bus. I am powerless over how other people work (or don't work) the Steps. But I've also learned I am not powerless over some things. I am not powerless over my attitudes. I am not powerless over negativity. I am not powerless over assuming responsibility for my own recovery. I have the power to exert a positive influence on myself, my loved ones, and the world in which I live. Reprinted from Daily Reflections, Page 11, with permission of A.A. World Services, Inc. __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

11-11-2006, 10:22 PM	#10 (permalink)
*chip* Community Greeter Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: some where / no where Posts: 952	I'm getting better at keeping my temper in check. I havn't punched any holes in the walls sober. chip __________________ One Day At A Time.....

11-12-2006, 08:51 PM	#11 (permalink)
utopia Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Australia Posts: 522	yes, defining is tricky, how important is it? i find its for me when it has to do with boundaries, resulting in inevitable conflict, facing my powerlessness. i pray for forgiveness, detachment and acceptance but above all courage to take action on my behalf and speak gods words with love but respect as well. i find messy people infuriating. god grant me the serenity!!! is it ever just about those bloody dishes __________________ Lord, be my calm in the storm

11-13-2006, 04:01 AM	#12 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 2,749	I hear you all loud and clear. Thanks for sharing with me and others. It is much appreciated. : ) __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON M. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 "Made A Decision To Turn My Will And Life Over To The Care Of God As I Understand Him."

11-14-2006, 03:52 PM	#13 (permalink)
collinsmi Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Colorado Springs CO Posts: 771	It doesn't seem like I "allow" myself to get upset, some stupid little thing will happen and there I am, upset! Unconsciously, I'll even LOOK for things to get upset about. THank God for steps 10, 11 and the things I've learned about myself in this program. __________________ "I was violating my standards faster than I could lower them!"

11-15-2006, 11:23 PM	#14 (permalink)
utopia Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Australia Posts: 522	i got courage to change out over my last "im upset and i ''shouldnt'' be" hmm. well i found that s when STEP 2 really helps, also anything in the index relating to CONFLICT/DISAGREEMENT as well as DETACHMENT. it changed my whole mindset and i could face the situation calmer, in fact, i didnt have to do anything after i had calmed down anyway, such was the miracle of handing it over. __________________ Lord, be my calm in the storm

11-16-2006, 03:48 AM	#15 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 2,749	What's the saying..or how does that saying go? IT'S NOT THE BIG STUFF WE HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT, BUT THE SMALL THINGS.... DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL THINGS..... Is that right? __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON M. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 "Made A Decision To Turn My Will And Life Over To The Care Of God As I Understand Him."

11-16-2006, 09:13 PM	#17 (permalink)
utopia Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Australia Posts: 522	someone once said (i forget who as i tend to thankfully now focus on the message more than the messenger) anyway someone once said in courage to change, that whether i understand things will be just the way they are, if i dont, things will be just the way they are. so whe something is upsetting me that good serenity prayer is really mature and frankly good common sense that saves me a lot of grief and dramatisation and sometimes to realise that its ok to feel what i feel, to know what im feeling is huge mark of progress. awareness, acceptance, action. __________________ Lord, be my calm in the storm

11-28-2006, 05:28 PM	#18 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 2,749	Bumping up this topic for you to share ur own ESH with us.... __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON M. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 "Made A Decision To Turn My Will And Life Over To The Care Of God As I Understand Him."

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