Wow!! I've got self-esteem - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Iwanttoheal · 11-04-2009, 02:31 PM

OMG, where did this spring from?

As I was finishing my last post, I started to feel I'm okay - I'm really, truly okay, I've got there at long last. I have no reason to feel guilty or not good enough or "less than" other people any more.

I am a good person; I was / am a good daughter; I am a good sister; I am a good wife and I am an excellent mother. I have finally found it in me to validate myself and it feels true, not a front, not arrogance, just the quiet truth - inside.

I am a good person in my own right who is worthy and deserving of a parent's love, pride and admiration. I did not deserve my childhood or early adulthood, I did / do not deserve my parent's expectations or negative judgemental attitudes. It is my Mum's loss that she is cannot recognise the good person I am and what I have achieved so far in my life. I no longer need her love or validation (which I never had) to feel good about myself.

See me, I'm okay. Thak you SR

***cmc*** · 11-04-2009, 03:05 PM

That's wonderful! I know from my own experience how great it can feel to have such a break-through.

dothi · 11-05-2009, 05:22 PM

That's a fantastic epiphany, IWTH.

This shows that we really can work past the roadblocks from our childhoods... that we're not condemned to be stuck in those old mistakes. It's such a shift between frames of mind that you could not even fathom what where you are now would feel like using your frame of mind from back then

stg1979 · 11-05-2009, 05:36 PM

That's great!

GingerM · 11-06-2009, 06:09 PM

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just the quiet truth

Isn't that the most fantastic feeling ever? It's not manic, it's not hyper, it's not defensive. It's like sinking into a hot mental bath and soaking the cares of the world away.

Good for you! I'm very happy for you!

takincareome · 11-06-2009, 09:13 PM

I'm happy for you too. I have those moments; they're great. Other times I'm wondering if I have any self esteem at all, and if so where it's gotten off to. I think it wanders off sometimes.

11-04-2009, 02:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
Iwanttoheal Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: UK Posts: 197	Wow!! I've got self-esteem OMG, where did this spring from? As I was finishing my last post, I started to feel I'm okay - I'm really, truly okay, I've got there at long last. I have no reason to feel guilty or not good enough or "less than" other people any more. I am a good person; I was / am a good daughter; I am a good sister; I am a good wife and I am an excellent mother. I have finally found it in me to validate myself and it feels true, not a front, not arrogance, just the quiet truth - inside. I am a good person in my own right who is worthy and deserving of a parent's love, pride and admiration. I did not deserve my childhood or early adulthood, I did / do not deserve my parent's expectations or negative judgemental attitudes. It is my Mum's loss that she is cannot recognise the good person I am and what I have achieved so far in my life. I no longer need her love or validation (which I never had) to feel good about myself. See me, I'm okay. Thak you SR

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*cmc* Community Greeter Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: FL Posts: 13,698	That's wonderful! I know from my own experience how great it can feel to have such a break-through. __________________

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11-05-2009, 05:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
dothi Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Anywhere but the mainstream. Posts: 402	That's a fantastic epiphany, IWTH. This shows that we really can work past the roadblocks from our childhoods... that we're not condemned to be stuck in those old mistakes. It's such a shift between frames of mind that you could not even fathom what where you are now would feel like using your frame of mind from back then

11-05-2009, 05:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
stg1979 Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 17	That's great!

11-06-2009, 09:13 PM	#6 (permalink)
takincareome Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Georgia (the state, not the country!) Posts: 108	I'm happy for you too. I have those moments; they're great. Other times I'm wondering if I have any self esteem at all, and if so where it's gotten off to. I think it wanders off sometimes.

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