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LiveLikeGold6 · 10-24-2009, 02:05 AM

Ok not the enemy, but my alcoholic mother. The drunken insults are such a mind f*ck sometimes. She talks down on me for having a drinking problem (even though she knows I'm now in recovery) and living with her (even tho I moved back in because SHE was lonely and asked me to). I plan on moving out in 2 to 3 months maximum and I'm wondering what will be of our relationship after then. I love her dearly, she's on my gratitude list, but our interactions are so damned hard for me because they always go awry. What to do? Thanks in advance

**DesertEyes** · 10-24-2009, 10:49 AM

Hi there LiveLikeGold6, and pleased to "meet" you

Living with somebody who is active in their addiction is a nightmare. I did that for several years with me ex who was addicted to pills. I'm never doing _that_ again !!!

As to what to do for the next few months until you move out, have you tried al-anon? Lots of people suggested it to me, but I was quite stubborn and didn't go until I was desperated. Wish I had gone sooner as it has done me a world of good. We have a related forum right here on SR

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Al-anon are the experts on living with an active alkie. They have concepts like "detachment" and "boundaries" that saved my sanity. They use the same 12 steps as all the other "step-programs" so I felt right at home when I walked in. Check them out, maybe you'll find something helpful.

Mike

LiveLikeGold6 · 10-25-2009, 02:12 AM

Thanks desert. I have been told about alanon a while ago but haven't tried it yet, out of fear I guess. But I'm definitely going to check it out this upcoming week and post back.

10-24-2009, 02:05 AM	#1 (permalink)
LiveLikeGold6 SicknTired of bn SicknTired :) Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Northern California Posts: 198 Blog Entries: 3	living with the enemy Ok not the enemy, but my alcoholic mother. The drunken insults are such a mind f*ck sometimes. She talks down on me for having a drinking problem (even though she knows I'm now in recovery) and living with her (even tho I moved back in because SHE was lonely and asked me to). I plan on moving out in 2 to 3 months maximum and I'm wondering what will be of our relationship after then. I love her dearly, she's on my gratitude list, but our interactions are so damned hard for me because they always go awry. What to do? Thanks in advance

10-24-2009, 10:49 AM	#2 (permalink)
DesertEyes Starting over Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Starting over all over again Posts: 3,111	Hi there LiveLikeGold6, and pleased to "meet" you Living with somebody who is active in their addiction is a nightmare. I did that for several years with me ex who was addicted to pills. I'm never doing _that_ again !!! As to what to do for the next few months until you move out, have you tried al-anon? Lots of people suggested it to me, but I was quite stubborn and didn't go until I was desperated. Wish I had gone sooner as it has done me a world of good. We have a related forum right here on SR Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information Al-anon are the experts on living with an active alkie. They have concepts like "detachment" and "boundaries" that saved my sanity. They use the same 12 steps as all the other "step-programs" so I felt right at home when I walked in. Check them out, maybe you'll find something helpful. Mike __________________ Sunsets are not endings. If I have enough faith, they are beginnings.

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10-25-2009, 02:12 AM	#3 (permalink)
LiveLikeGold6 SicknTired of bn SicknTired :) Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Northern California Posts: 198 Blog Entries: 3	Thanks desert. I have been told about alanon a while ago but haven't tried it yet, out of fear I guess. But I'm definitely going to check it out this upcoming week and post back.

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