[ranae1221]

I know I am a sensitive person, and that can be difficult for others at time.

Yesterday my dad came for a short visit (he is currently in an impatient rehab unit, however he is allowed short day passes as he is completing he 30 days this week). Now, my dad and I began having a real relationship just a few years ago. I say real because prior to that we didn't really have any kind of relationship....went years with no contact and just really didn't know each other because of his years and years of drinking.

Both my dad and I have a very sarcastic sense of humor. One of the things he began teasing me about, right away was my weight. I am not a perfect size anything, but for the most part it doesn't bother me. But this really did, especially coming from a parent. So we made a deal- he wouldn't joke or tease me about my weight, and I would do the same about not teasing him about being bald, which was always a sore subject with him. Seems like a fair compremise, right?

My dad still gives teases me about my weight, and usually I remind him of our "deal". Yesterday, after not seeing him or talking to him in over a week, I was happy to see him. He seemed more interested in fixing his jeep then he did to see me. Whatever, fine, that is my "rejection" issues and I need to deal with it.

Then I was talking to someone about MY dog, not his, and they asked what kind of dog he is. I said "A mix, a fat and lazy mutt". My dad then says, "Just like his family". Hello! If he is my dog, then who is his family?

This was like a knife to my heart. I realize he was "just joking", but I spent most of yesterday crying after he left. I realize I should say something to him, but he will then say what he always does, "I was just joking, don't be so sensitive" and he won't take it seriously. I have tried so many ways to tell him that it hurts me when he jokes like he does, even sitting him down and explaining seriously why it bothers me. But it doesn't change.

Am I just being to sensitive about this? Is it unfair of me to expect a parent to "be nice" to their child? Am I just too emotional?

I had such a bad day yesterday, and after his stupid comment, I had one of the toughest evenings and nights I have had in a very very long time. Even now it still makes me want to cry thinking about how everything I have done to help him, everything I have accomplished in my life, and that is the one thing he chooses to point out about my life.