[Gooch]

Originally Posted by C@tgrl

I beleive that a recovery site should embrace people from all walks of life, not sit in judgement or cast aspersions.

A recovery site doesn't embrace, judge, or cast aspersions. Sort of like an AA or NA meeting, it can't do anything in and of itself. It is the responsibility of the owners, admins, moderators, and members (trusted servants)to provide an atmosphere of recovery. It is only through the consistent application and example of a set of guidelines and the collective conscience of the admins/mods (group conscience)that said atmosphere of recovery can continue to exist.

The major differnce between a site and a physical meeting is that someone's individual name is attached to the site. they pay the bills, purchase or lease the equipment, etc. Someone owns a website, no one owns a meeting.

I believe that we should embrace EVERYBODY, no matter how near or far they have been to the gates of insanity.

And I belive that that is the mission statement here. To quote the founder of this site.

"There are 2 reasons to be here, to get help or to give it"

After all, would you turn someone away from an AA/NA meeting or church for that matter just because you didnt like them?

I have never seen people turned away because someone doesn't like them. I have seen people who could not adhere to the mission statement, who instigated and manipulated others, who used the site for purposes other than recovery. and who generally failed to make a sincere effort to peacefully coexist with other members. refusingadmission isn't about not likeing someone. It's about the recognition that their behaviours are unnacceptable and in conflict with the well being and unity of the community.

This includes face to face meetings as well as websites.
I've witnessed attempted kidnappings, assaults, stalkings, and coersions at meetings as well as drug deals. Imagine if no one ever called the police, or confronted the individuals about trying to get their behaviours more in line withe the goals of the community?


Each of us is ultimately accountable for our behaviour even when we may have temporarily lost the capacity to assume responsibility for it.

If I commit a murder I'm going to serve the sentence, regardless of how penitent I am or how insane I was at the time of the act.

I hope this helps to display a larger piece of the picture.