[lyn_blossom78]

Don't ya hate that sick to your gut feeling you get when your marriage relationship is out of sorts? I have the same thing, and my husband, during one of his nice moments admitted he has the same problem.

Let's start with: This is not your fault. You are being pulled in two different directions. You want your sister to come, because it won't be nearly as much fun without her--but darn, she can't make a decision. Then your husband is trying to force you to force her (totally out of your character) to get her to make a decision she's not ready to make. You, are being put in a bad position, because if you try to make your sister make a decision, or make it for her, as he's trying to get you to do, you can't do it in a way that doesn't make you look like the bad guy. It could even cause a rift that is not so easily repairable in family relations.

That being said, let it go. While he's in FL for a couple of days, take this time for yourself--you probably haven't done this in a long time. Give it a couple of days, and, who knows? Sis might make a decision. Or, hubby may come home refreshed from his trip, and he may not feel so stressed about whatever threw him into this tangent.

You could (after you've had time to de-stress yourself) take sis for a cup of coffee, tell her how much you care about her and would love her to go--let her know you'll love her no matter what her decision is--try to find out what's holding her back--help her through the decision-making process. Perhaps you can make it sound exciting--plan some time for girl-time.

I know when I have to make a decision about going on a trip--all the problems loom up in front of me (what will I do with the kids? the dogs? The house? Stop the newspapers and mail... days of packing..... work overtime at work so everythings ok there...) The only way I can get excited about going is to think about how much fun it will be so the fun seems to outweigh the yuck in getting ready.

Hope you have a relaxing next few days.

Lyn