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Rose56 · 07-07-2003, 05:23 AM

Good Morning Friends, I missed you last week while I was away visiting my sister in NJ. I am feeling so out of sorts this morning.

Several months ago I invited my sister and her family to go with my family to Key West in August. We were planning on it. About three weeks ago she told me she wasn't sure she would be able to go because her husband didn't want to. Since then she has been going back and forth about whether to come without him or not. I made the mistake of telling my husband that she might not be going with us. WHile I was visiting her this past week, my husband invited his brother and their family to go with us. WHen he told me I explained that my sister had not decided whether she was going or not. Since then he has been pressuring me to get an answer from my sister. I mean big time pressure like calling me and her names and screaming about why doesn't she know if she is going and so forth. Yesterday I called her and asked if she knew what she was going to do and still she does not. So last night another screaming session with my husband about this (of course these always happen when he is drinking).

I have about had it with both of them, sister and husband. I am thinking about not going on the vacation myself. I hate being in this situation. My husband thinks that I should just tell her she can't go. Do I have NO backbone?

My husband is going to Fla today with his Dad for a few days. I know he felt bad about the fight, but still thinks he is right. He expected me to just hug him this morning and forget about the whole thing so he would feel better going on this trip. Part of me wanted to but part of me was still so angry. Now I am at work and he is on the way to Fla until Fri. I feel upset and angry.

Why is this my life? THe readings today both talk about not assigning blame during a conflict and not focusing on sho is right etc. Should I have accepted his lame apology this morning? Why am I so frequently at work and feeling like I will burst into tears? WHat kind of life it that?

I am thinking about calling my sister this morning and telling her not to come. But if I do then I will be angry when his brother comes and I am sure I will say something to him about it. I just don't see a good resolution to this problem. I was even thinking about telling him that I can't go because of something at work.

Help?

07-07-2003, 05:23 AM	#1 (permalink)
Rose56 Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Raleigh, NC (Jersey Girl transplant) Posts: 632	out of sorts............ Good Morning Friends, I missed you last week while I was away visiting my sister in NJ. I am feeling so out of sorts this morning. Several months ago I invited my sister and her family to go with my family to Key West in August. We were planning on it. About three weeks ago she told me she wasn't sure she would be able to go because her husband didn't want to. Since then she has been going back and forth about whether to come without him or not. I made the mistake of telling my husband that she might not be going with us. WHile I was visiting her this past week, my husband invited his brother and their family to go with us. WHen he told me I explained that my sister had not decided whether she was going or not. Since then he has been pressuring me to get an answer from my sister. I mean big time pressure like calling me and her names and screaming about why doesn't she know if she is going and so forth. Yesterday I called her and asked if she knew what she was going to do and still she does not. So last night another screaming session with my husband about this (of course these always happen when he is drinking). I have about had it with both of them, sister and husband. I am thinking about not going on the vacation myself. I hate being in this situation. My husband thinks that I should just tell her she can't go. Do I have NO backbone? My husband is going to Fla today with his Dad for a few days. I know he felt bad about the fight, but still thinks he is right. He expected me to just hug him this morning and forget about the whole thing so he would feel better going on this trip. Part of me wanted to but part of me was still so angry. Now I am at work and he is on the way to Fla until Fri. I feel upset and angry. Why is this my life? THe readings today both talk about not assigning blame during a conflict and not focusing on sho is right etc. Should I have accepted his lame apology this morning? Why am I so frequently at work and feeling like I will burst into tears? WHat kind of life it that? I am thinking about calling my sister this morning and telling her not to come. But if I do then I will be angry when his brother comes and I am sure I will say something to him about it. I just don't see a good resolution to this problem. I was even thinking about telling him that I can't go because of something at work. Help?