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No problems with the venting - it sounds like you have a sincere worry and you're very smart to be thinking about how to maintain your sobriety "under fire". She is being challenged by your sobriety - especially as she is the "parent" in your relationship, as you say. Changing your addiction behaviors will change your outlook, priorities, everything (for the better, we trust) so naturally it will unsettle your relationship and I'm sure you will both be feeling uneasy - it's almost as if you have to start all over and redefine everything between you. She is also seeing it as a threat to her behavior and will be looking for you to be judgemental "oh, now that you're not drinking I'm bad for doing it, right?" Not saying this is great or fun, just natural - hey, we're all human!
Just be as open & non-judgemental as you can, but firm in your stand - you are not going to drink! Think of lots of fun things to do (yes, of course, THAT, but also maybe a special dinner, going out walking late at night and looking at stars, go to a cheesy late movie, etc.?) Maybe she will see that the undrunk you is a wonderful person and a lot of fun to be with, too. We all come to sobriety when the time is right for us, no one can do it for us. I will hope that you both have a wonderful loving weekend, and that when the time is right for her she follows your good example and joins you in a new and happier life! Bless you both!
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