Hi,
I have experienced something that may be similar to what you asked about. I think it has to do with the grieving process.
Typically, I am a very warm and compassionate person- in fact that is a HUGE understatement seeing as I am a codependent person!
A few times after the death of a loved one, I noticed that I would unexpectedly react to a situation in a cold manner. The best example I can give you occured a few months after the death of my dad. He had died of lung cancer and I was with him during the last days of his life. One day I was in the grocery store and saw an old man who I guess reminded me of my dad. My immediate thought was...'gee, I bet he doesn't have long to live.' I was quite shocked by it, thinking 'how awful!' and, 'where did that come from?'
In time those types of things happened less and less- but in my experience grief can pop up in ways and at times not expected.
I also had some odd dreams where the person who had died- was actually still alive and I had been 'fooled' or mistaken about their death.
Like Ann said:
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Sometimes the pain is too much to bear all at once, so little spells of grief and sadness slip out, and the rest remains for another time.
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Overall, I feel that grieving is much more complex and endures longer than we may want to admit- we being the present culture we live in.
I compare it to a physical wound- it heals when it heals and if it doesn't or it gets infected, then it's time for some medical attention or at least a change in our behavior that will promote or allow healing.
IMO
cmc