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leviathon · 07-11-2006, 01:29 PM

DebJ, totally relate to your last post. I am in similar situation in that I grew up in a violently abusive alcoholic home and that has had a lasting impact on my life, how I view life, trust, family and relationships. That is all complicated by the fact that I left home at 14 and disengaged from my family for twenty or so years and then shortly after I begand dealing with them again, my father goes and shoots himself dead.

In short, the answer for me has never been as easy as develop a program and get sober. My life is VERY complicated. I am told that I have a social adjustment disorder (i.e. I don't trust readily or easily) and I fear intimacy. Geeeeee, duh, I was violently beaten, sexually abused by a baby sitter (female thankfully), used drugs to "cope" with my pain and then complicated everything by going on to become a lawyer... gee now lets try to fit in with all these normal people that have had relatively normal lives and have travelled and have mommy and daddy loving them, etc. geeee if only I'd get a program shazam life would be resolved... NOT, not even close.

Sorry, not trying to be sarcastic, but there is so much more to what I am dealing with a program is only one small part of the much larger picture. I really do wish it was all as simple as getting a sponsor and a program and shazam life is better... that has helped (the program part, don't do AA so don't have a sponsor), but I have a lot of other issues that require understanding myself, a psychologist, trauma counselling, etc. There is no miracle in finding a program, that just helped me realize I needed to do something about the drinking, I then had to look at what was causing the drinking and begin to bring that out into the light of day and to work through it.

Peace, Levi.

07-11-2006, 01:29 PM	#32 (permalink)
leviathon Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Somwhere over the rainbow Posts: 1,176	DebJ, totally relate to your last post. I am in similar situation in that I grew up in a violently abusive alcoholic home and that has had a lasting impact on my life, how I view life, trust, family and relationships. That is all complicated by the fact that I left home at 14 and disengaged from my family for twenty or so years and then shortly after I begand dealing with them again, my father goes and shoots himself dead. In short, the answer for me has never been as easy as develop a program and get sober. My life is VERY complicated. I am told that I have a social adjustment disorder (i.e. I don't trust readily or easily) and I fear intimacy. Geeeeee, duh, I was violently beaten, sexually abused by a baby sitter (female thankfully), used drugs to "cope" with my pain and then complicated everything by going on to become a lawyer... gee now lets try to fit in with all these normal people that have had relatively normal lives and have travelled and have mommy and daddy loving them, etc. geeee if only I'd get a program shazam life would be resolved... NOT, not even close. Sorry, not trying to be sarcastic, but there is so much more to what I am dealing with a program is only one small part of the much larger picture. I really do wish it was all as simple as getting a sponsor and a program and shazam life is better... that has helped (the program part, don't do AA so don't have a sponsor), but I have a lot of other issues that require understanding myself, a psychologist, trauma counselling, etc. There is no miracle in finding a program, that just helped me realize I needed to do something about the drinking, I then had to look at what was causing the drinking and begin to bring that out into the light of day and to work through it. Peace, Levi. __________________ Hope springs eternal!