I'm no shrink but my famous 2 cents on this: your daughter seems like a person who kinda got spoiled, so to say. She always gets things her way (ie: the 1 AM ER drive) and now all of a sudden her methods dun work so well cuz you did what you prolly should've done way earlier: not letting her gets things her way and simply kick her out. I think you've been pretty nice about it, like paying for her treatment, giving her a job, all things I prolly wouldn't have done. Now she has to survive in this world and she's seen now that her ways aren't always the ways of others. I think it was very good you basically kicked her out. I'm sure she'll do fine on her own in a less luxury apartment in a 'polluted' enviroment, cuz I tend to think she decided on those things cuz she (of course, like many others) likes to live in a peaceful, rural area but couldn't pay for it so she lets her mom do that. I know this sounds harsh and I'm sure your daughter is a nice person but yeah...I took my time to read this all cuz I can relate, sometimes I think we're all guilty of what your daughter does in fact: manipulating. I know I did. Also: keep in mind that she's an adult so it's her choice to undergo treatment and all even tho I really think what's needed here is her living on her own for a while, I think it'll do her a lot of good. Good luck to you both.
