Hi Mel!
Wow, this is a toughy and my heart aches for you! Finding a councelor is an AWESOME idea!!! They really can help!!! I sorda know your pain, I didnt lose the kids but lost the love and it was worse to me than if he had died, in other words, if he had (which Im glad he didnt) there would have been closure but the break up and having to hear about him was worse.......I hope that makes sense and doesnt sound too morbid! Anyhoo, I know Ive said this before and right now Im sure you are going to think...."Uh Huh.....easier said then done" but counciling and TIME will do wonders!!! In the meantime, keep your chin up and try to stay strong.....there is light at the end of what seems like an endless tunnel right now, but each day is a new one! Keep us posted, were all here for you!
Love Liss