[ranae1221]

I would be curoius to know what the nursing home is doing to manage her behaviors. (I say this because I worked in a nursing home for 6 years)

Is she on any medication to help with the depression and agressive behaviors? Any signs or symptoms of dementia or confusion? (That can also cause behaviors). If she is not confused and fully alert, has the nursing home put any "limits" on her? What I mean by that is that they have told her if she continues with these behaviors she would have to leave and would end up in a nursing home equiped to handle behaviors? (This can sometimes "scare" a patient into cooperating)

As far as what you should do, you should do whatever is best for you. If that means you need to keep some distance, then that is what you should do. The behaviors will continue, wether you are there or not.

Is there a reason the nursing home does not do the laundry? If it is not possible to have them do the laundry and you absolutley (sp) have to do it, you could try calling the nursing home staff, ask them to gather her laundry and leave it at the front office, or even meet you in the front lobby. That way you get the laundry without having to have a confrontation. The same could be done when you drop it off.

I think having the psychatrist see her is a good step. If she is not on medication hopefully they can start her on something that would help.