[Kellye C]

You'll get many responses I'm sure but I think it is best to step back and let him take this wherever he is going to. To try to step in and cushion his fall isn't doing him any favors in the long run IMO. I've seen it in AA where after a slip and a new bottom they re-enter more determined and willing to do whatever it takes. There is a saying "it takes what it takes".

As far as the switching addiction to spending, yes it is entirely possible. We are not people of moderation and we look for things to make us feel better or to help us escape. I can see where spending might give him a rush.

I am so sorry about your dog and all the struggles you are going through right now. Definitely check out Al-Anon, spend a lot of time on the F&F board and work on processing your grief and your feelings. Allow him to do whatever it is he must. You can't get sober for him or stay sober for him. He has to want it more than anything.

Hugs,
Kellye