| He slipped...
Just wanted to know your thoughts here from the "other side"....
I have an AB who had been 3 months sober. Last Saturday, unbeknownst to me, he started a bender. He's not living here. In the past week he has not gone to work. We also had to put our beloved 15 year old dog down. She got sick right after he left so he didn't witness this decline and was kind of taken aback by it. He has spent $8000 in the past month (we don't make THAT kind of money, but when he left I split our savings up and that was his half). His friends have now rejected him because of this drinking binge he's on. He's staying in a hotel right now, sad, no home, no dog, no girl....you know the song.
Ok here it is....do I stay out of it? I certainly don't want him homeless on the streets. I just don't know if there is any way I can help him in this time. Is it best to leave things alone and let him hit his bottom again? I'm trying to get his sponsor's number, and I'm not sure if it's ok to make that phone call. I'm just beside myself in grief over my dog and now over my fiancee' who was doing so well on his road to recovery. He was going to AA 2x a day. Any advice or support or anything from you guys on this side would be greatly appreciated. xoxo Cindy
PS - Also as far as the over spending thing....this is so NOT like him, is this a normal occurence of sobriety? Kind of like a cross addiction now to spending? Thanks....
__________________  Cindy |