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Please do not listen to the lies. None of this is your fault. I know we grow up thinking that our parents are supposed to protect us and teach us good things but your father is sick and incapable of living up to some of his parental responsibilities.
You will have to learn an important survival technique called "detachment".
You do this by constantly reenforcing your belief that: YOUR FATHER'S DRINKING IS NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU DID NOT CAUSE IT.YOU CANNOT FIX IT.
Continue to get on with your life and furthering your education. One day you will be able to move out and be able to choose who you share your space with.
Find a support group near you. Alanon or AcOa. Continue posting here.
Your father does what he( thinks he) needs to do to cope with life(drinking) and you do what you think you need to do (therapy/meetings)
Your father's drinking has consequences and part of his consequences is that he is being forced to face some painful issues and he is not happy with it. That is not your fault.
Keep in touch and let us know how you are.
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