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sadface · 05-12-2006, 08:24 PM

We have been separated for about 16 mos, married 17 yrs. We used to see each other every day and I started working a second job 6 mos ago. He didn't come over but we talked everyday. I got mad at him and didn't want to talk anymore. It has been about three months since things have changed for my AH and I. I have seen him once in those three months. He has stopped taking my son with him on weekends because he is working as a trucker out of state. He rarely calls my son or I. During that time, he did call twice very drunk...feeling sorry for himself. I believe he has OW and now she is enabling him. A friend saw him about a week ago, and AH told her we are separated. He used to get mad when I told people that. I know in my heart it is over. I don't cry everyday but I do miss him and think about him. I guess I still love him. Last time I talked to him about 10 days ago, he said when he came back, he was going to rehab. He called me at work about three days ago,but I didn't answer because I don't want to argue with him anymore. I see that my 14 year old son misses him. i have planned a week vacation in Canada. I hope this will help both of us and we will bond closer. I have alot to thank God for, I must admit. I have built a little bit of a savings, so I don't worry (not much) about losing my house. I have started Alanon meetings so I hope this missing him will go away for both of us. I read posts just about everyday here and it has helped. I also read "Co-dependents no more" and "For women who love to much." I recommend it to newcomers. It does get better. About a year ago, I used to cry every night and my son would sit beside me and cry with me. Now I am working on myself and trying to be supportive to my son. Thanks.

05-12-2006, 08:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
sadface Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: sadtown, OR Posts: 89	Update.. having good days. We have been separated for about 16 mos, married 17 yrs. We used to see each other every day and I started working a second job 6 mos ago. He didn't come over but we talked everyday. I got mad at him and didn't want to talk anymore. It has been about three months since things have changed for my AH and I. I have seen him once in those three months. He has stopped taking my son with him on weekends because he is working as a trucker out of state. He rarely calls my son or I. During that time, he did call twice very drunk...feeling sorry for himself. I believe he has OW and now she is enabling him. A friend saw him about a week ago, and AH told her we are separated. He used to get mad when I told people that. I know in my heart it is over. I don't cry everyday but I do miss him and think about him. I guess I still love him. Last time I talked to him about 10 days ago, he said when he came back, he was going to rehab. He called me at work about three days ago,but I didn't answer because I don't want to argue with him anymore. I see that my 14 year old son misses him. i have planned a week vacation in Canada. I hope this will help both of us and we will bond closer. I have alot to thank God for, I must admit. I have built a little bit of a savings, so I don't worry (not much) about losing my house. I have started Alanon meetings so I hope this missing him will go away for both of us. I read posts just about everyday here and it has helped. I also read "Co-dependents no more" and "For women who love to much." I recommend it to newcomers. It does get better. About a year ago, I used to cry every night and my son would sit beside me and cry with me. Now I am working on myself and trying to be supportive to my son. Thanks.