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Hay everybody.. Well here I go again. My opinion and my opinion only. I do not believe that one program will work for everybody, if it did we would only have one program with a 100% success rate and we don't. But I do believe that if you WANT to get sober that there is a way or a program that will work for you. I do NOT think that I have a right to judge or put down any program or way of getting sober that has worked for another person. Even if I don't agree with them, if it is working for them then it is not my place to judge. I might need to gain information about how they are doing it b/c I might have a loved one or a friend that might need their way of sobriety soon. I need to have an open mind to all avenues of sobriety that are out there, not all people are the same. However, I need to be very careful when talking about any recovery program and make very sure that I am being HONEST in what I am saying about that program. I do not want to be responsible for misleading another person or scaring a struggling alcoholic away from recovery. The tongue can be sharper than the sword. There is nothing wrong with asking questions about things you have heard or don't understand, but totally demeaning or condeming any program is hurtful to others. Your feelings and experiences are important and you have a right to share them, just share them responsibly, with love and respect for your fellow alcoholics. We are all in the same boat, it is called Earth. We are all looking for the same thing it is called Sobrity. How we get there can have many different road maps and we can share them with each other, with love, respect, and kindness, one alcoholic to another. I chose AA b/c it was the only recovery program avaliable in my area. The first 5 years I didn't stay sober I was a chronic relapser. I remember saying AA dosn't work for me. One of the old timers told me " If you work AA it will work for you" I finally did it and have been sober 10 yrs now. I don't push AA on anyone b/c AA is for those who want it not for those who need it. It is hard work at first but it gets easier. And the rewards are amazing. Its kinda like going to a new job where you have to be trained. The first few weeks you might be sore from the hard work b/c your not use to it but soon you get the hang of it and your not sore anymore. Then the paychecks come rolling in.. A lot of people don't want to do the work when they get to AA. They just want to go to meetings and go home. Then they say it dosn't work. If I go to my job and sit in a chair, do nothing and go home I don't think my paycheck will be very good. Thats kinda how AA works. You get out of it what you put into it. It just took me a long time to be willing to work the program and get honest. When I did I got sober. As I am sure other programs have success storys. AA is not the only way. It is just my way. Love to all Debs
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