| How Seriously Do I Take Him?
Hello everyone, I'm new here. Great site. I will give you a quick background and then get on to my question. My hubby and I are in our late 40's and have been together 10 years (married 8), second marriage for both. He was a drinker from the day I met him...not the kind to hang out in bars, but the drink at home type. His drinking (personality) has gone through phases. The first few years he was a happy drunk. Then things started to change. He spent the next few years throwing what I call "tantrums". I learned alot about alcoholics during this period. He could be mean, loud and always looking to start a fight. I finally figured out that the best way to handle these outbursts was to just walk away and not argue with him. I learned that there is no way to reason with a drunk because they don't think rationally. Now he has gone on to a new phase...could it be because he no longer gets any reaction from me?
He now seems very depressed. Now when he drinks (which is every night), he belittles himself and is critical of himself. He has mentioned suicide several times and the other night I found a suicide note he had written. He is always fine the next day and there has never been any mention made of this when he is sober. I honestly don't know what to make of this. Is this a ploy for attention or should I truly be worried that he will really go through with it?
I realize you people on the forum don't know me or my husband and can't give me a firm answer. But have any of you had experience with this? We do have guns in the house from my husband being brought up on a farm. I'm starting to think I should at least get them out of the house. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Lily
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