There's only one reason to throw the past up at someone I love and that's to win, through hurting the other person because that's the only weapon I have left. I hurt my wife enough during my drinking years. I make it a practice to not bring up anything that hasn't happened in the past 24 hours. Hell, most the time I can't even remember what happened more than 24 hours ago. I'm glad all I have to work on is one day at a time. Part-timers ya know! I'm still too young for Altzheimers.
It's my choice whether to fight or not. Doesn't matter what the situation is. My experience is that when I choose not to fight, I feel better. Very few things are worth getting all upset about anyway. Besides, when I fight with someone, I usually feel like an amend is eventually going to have to be made and I don't like making amends. So.....I don't fight. I've found too that I'm responsible for teaching people how I want to be treated. Do onto others.....
