| transferring addictions in early recovery
Dear all
Thank you in advance for reading and sharing your experience with me. Once again I come to this forum to understand the disease of addiction by asking you a question.
My partner has been clean and sober for 7 months. She goes to AA/NA etc and seems to me is totally embracing recovery.
What I have noticed recently is that, I believe she's in danger of transferring the addiction to bidding on ebay. In my view, she's getting a buzz from bidding and winning items on ebay, and although to buy stuff on ebay is ok, I mean she's obsessing about it, spending well over what is sensible and can afford, the other night she even had symptoms like when she was using just by being on her pc and waiting for a bid to end. Scary!!!
My question is: do I tell her this is what I noticed? How would you take it if your loved one says so to you?
She's defensive and irritable often.
I don't want to say it to take her inventory, put her down, focus on her and so on. I'm practicing my programme (Alanon) and I am aware of this. It's just that I want to be honest and open with her and part of our recovery is to have an honest relationship.
What's your advice?
Love Jo
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