Thanks to you both for your replies. I have actually told both of my friends that I would rather not talk about their issues, and it's gotten easier with one because we have no contact anymore. We're still friends, but I don't go out of my way to contact him - he and I are friends, and will always be friends, but the other is the one I'm closest to. So that situation has resolved itself.
But just yesterday, my friend calls me up, complaining out one side of his face that he is tired of being called into work on his days off, and out the other, complaining because he's short on money for rent. AGAIN. I just had to mentally laugh, because I don't quite understand not seeing the lessons that karma tries to teach you. But yes, things have gotten easier.
And yes, I've been in the forums for co-dependency. I've got so many issues that I should probably be posting in every forum here but I try to hone them down to a few at a time
