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sunshine003 · 04-10-2006, 06:16 AM

Stating he doesn't agree to my leaving the state (or county for that matter) because number 1, he has had the baby 30 percent of the time since she was born. therefore, I would be taking her and changing their relationship, blah blah blah.

First off, that is such a lie. He isn't even home that much. Second, I have on two, maybe three occasions, left him alone with her. He's never even been to a doctor's appointment with me for her. It's just absurd. Of course, I realize he had to say something and would more than likely come up with something that wasn't true. It's almost laughable but it's also frustrating. He'd never offer to take her so I could get something done or for me to have a break.....so I'm a tad bit angry.

The last time my ah pulled an all nighter, it was a biggie. It was the time I actually drove to find him.....was the first time I ever did that. Anyway, it was when I discovered his car at his office but that girls car still at the place I last saw ah. I ended up calling his mom that morning. She flew off the handle and started calling ah also. So by the time ah called me, I suppose he KNEW he was in big trouble. He strolled in around 8 am. I sat there silent and he proceeded to tell me he was moving out. I asked him why? He said he was tired of the daily struggle of being with me. That he saw an old boy friend of mine out after I left and that is why he didn't come home. It triggered all sorts of bad memories for him (from high school, LOL) and he couldn't handle it. That he has nightmares thinking of me with other people (again, from highschool 15 years ago, LOL), blah blah blah. It sounded so real at the time and of course, I fell for all this crap. He talked very angry in all he was saying. I ended up crying and crying, begging him not to go.....I was so sorry, etc. It makes me sick to think of it and how I acted. When I should have said, "if that's how you feel you should go." In any event, as absurd as all he said that night was, THAT'S HOW ABSURD ALL THE STUFF HIS PAPERS SAY!!!

Sorry to go off on a tangent, it just made me think about that night.

Finally I can relate to his saying "being with me is a daily struggle." Being married to him had become a daily struggle and still is at times.

04-10-2006, 06:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
sunshine003 Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: USA Posts: 528	AH responded to my attorney... Stating he doesn't agree to my leaving the state (or county for that matter) because number 1, he has had the baby 30 percent of the time since she was born. therefore, I would be taking her and changing their relationship, blah blah blah. First off, that is such a lie. He isn't even home that much. Second, I have on two, maybe three occasions, left him alone with her. He's never even been to a doctor's appointment with me for her. It's just absurd. Of course, I realize he had to say something and would more than likely come up with something that wasn't true. It's almost laughable but it's also frustrating. He'd never offer to take her so I could get something done or for me to have a break.....so I'm a tad bit angry. The last time my ah pulled an all nighter, it was a biggie. It was the time I actually drove to find him.....was the first time I ever did that. Anyway, it was when I discovered his car at his office but that girls car still at the place I last saw ah. I ended up calling his mom that morning. She flew off the handle and started calling ah also. So by the time ah called me, I suppose he KNEW he was in big trouble. He strolled in around 8 am. I sat there silent and he proceeded to tell me he was moving out. I asked him why? He said he was tired of the daily struggle of being with me. That he saw an old boy friend of mine out after I left and that is why he didn't come home. It triggered all sorts of bad memories for him (from high school, LOL) and he couldn't handle it. That he has nightmares thinking of me with other people (again, from highschool 15 years ago, LOL), blah blah blah. It sounded so real at the time and of course, I fell for all this crap. He talked very angry in all he was saying. I ended up crying and crying, begging him not to go.....I was so sorry, etc. It makes me sick to think of it and how I acted. When I should have said, "if that's how you feel you should go." In any event, as absurd as all he said that night was, THAT'S HOW ABSURD ALL THE STUFF HIS PAPERS SAY!!! Sorry to go off on a tangent, it just made me think about that night. Finally I can relate to his saying "being with me is a daily struggle." Being married to him had become a daily struggle and still is at times.