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spedteach · 06-03-2003, 11:30 AM

Hi, I am dealing with my husband who is diagnosed depressed and also an alcoholic. He has been on and off meds for the last 1 1/2 years. He was using wellbutrin 150mg 2xs a day. When he was on his meds, he was like a completely different person then he is off of them. He is so lethargic, misses work, sleeps a lot, spends no time with me or our son. This usually lasts a couple of days...he also will go back to drinking when he's off his meds...that is what usually triggers his crash into his depression.

We've talked about what to do about our situation and he says he doesn't feel any differently on the meds and then he says he notices more highs then lows. He stops taking the meds when he starts to feel a little better (he has never stayed on meds for more then 1 month) and the cycle continues.

I am not well versed in depression, admittedly. I've learned a lot about alcoholism and I know detachment with love is best for me and him....however, is it the same with depression?? Do I let him sit there and flounder?? Do I try to help him out of this depression?? Do I go to the dr. with him?? Do I keep encouraging dr and meds?? He is at the point that if he doesn't do something and have a plan TODAY he could lose his job...if that happens, it could push him into a further depression, it will kill us financially, could push him further into drinking and honestly, destroy our marriage.....do I do nothing??

I am asking here because I think that someone that has dealt with depression can better understand what he is going through and offer me advice on how to deal with it. Sorry if I offended anyone or for posting here if I shouldnt have!

Thanks!

06-03-2003, 11:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
spedteach Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Mich Posts: 127	Any advice welcome... Hi, I am dealing with my husband who is diagnosed depressed and also an alcoholic. He has been on and off meds for the last 1 1/2 years. He was using wellbutrin 150mg 2xs a day. When he was on his meds, he was like a completely different person then he is off of them. He is so lethargic, misses work, sleeps a lot, spends no time with me or our son. This usually lasts a couple of days...he also will go back to drinking when he's off his meds...that is what usually triggers his crash into his depression. We've talked about what to do about our situation and he says he doesn't feel any differently on the meds and then he says he notices more highs then lows. He stops taking the meds when he starts to feel a little better (he has never stayed on meds for more then 1 month) and the cycle continues. I am not well versed in depression, admittedly. I've learned a lot about alcoholism and I know detachment with love is best for me and him....however, is it the same with depression?? Do I let him sit there and flounder?? Do I try to help him out of this depression?? Do I go to the dr. with him?? Do I keep encouraging dr and meds?? He is at the point that if he doesn't do something and have a plan TODAY he could lose his job...if that happens, it could push him into a further depression, it will kill us financially, could push him further into drinking and honestly, destroy our marriage.....do I do nothing?? I am asking here because I think that someone that has dealt with depression can better understand what he is going through and offer me advice on how to deal with it. Sorry if I offended anyone or for posting here if I shouldnt have! Thanks!