[tkdan]

My wife was going through this and eventually became so unhappy and depressed she had to seek counseling. Through the coaching of her councelor she was able to start taking time for herself. She was able to spend money on herself without feeling guilty. There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for your kids. There is something wrong with if putting your kids first causes you to become depressed to the point that it effects your ability to be a consistant parent. I'm not saying this is where you're at I'm just saying this is a possible result. You deserve a life of your own. It does not make you a a bad parent to do what you want to do from time to time. Obviously you have a strong love for your kids and grandkids, it's alright to love yourself enough to make you happy too. I hope this helps some I had to watch my wife go through this so I can understand.