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leem03 · 03-16-2006, 07:27 AM

Sorry I didn't reply sooner. Thank you all for your comments. I don't think AA is the answer for him. He needs a place to dry out. Not having a job again now allows him to spend yet MORE free time up at the bar. His dad says that his car must go into automatic pilot and just take him there everyday regardless.

He is getting worse, and I am afraid. I have read a few more books and both of them say that letting someone hit rock bottom may no longer be a good solution. Because that when some hit their bottom they never get back up.

Hi to you too Minnie, thanks for the welcome back. He is not actively looking for rehab options, but he asked for some information from an Intensive Outpatient facility near by. I don't know if he's called or not yet, but probably not. It is so hard to try and live my life when his always seems to overshadow mine. I know the basic rule of Alanon is to live my life first, but it's just not that easy. He is an absolute mess. While his actions don't run my life like they have in the past, they are still affecting me. I want so badly to help him. I have thought of trying to do an intervention, because he will admit that he needs help, but he just can't get his foot into the rehab door.

I don't know....sorry for blabbing on here. And thank you for the Salvation Army suggestion, but I know for sure he won't commit to a 6 month plan at this point. So I guess I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing...........feeling helpless.

Thanks!

03-16-2006, 07:27 AM	#6 (permalink)
leem03 Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Lost in the world Posts: 107	Sorry I didn't reply sooner. Thank you all for your comments. I don't think AA is the answer for him. He needs a place to dry out. Not having a job again now allows him to spend yet MORE free time up at the bar. His dad says that his car must go into automatic pilot and just take him there everyday regardless. He is getting worse, and I am afraid. I have read a few more books and both of them say that letting someone hit rock bottom may no longer be a good solution. Because that when some hit their bottom they never get back up. Hi to you too Minnie, thanks for the welcome back. He is not actively looking for rehab options, but he asked for some information from an Intensive Outpatient facility near by. I don't know if he's called or not yet, but probably not. It is so hard to try and live my life when his always seems to overshadow mine. I know the basic rule of Alanon is to live my life first, but it's just not that easy. He is an absolute mess. While his actions don't run my life like they have in the past, they are still affecting me. I want so badly to help him. I have thought of trying to do an intervention, because he will admit that he needs help, but he just can't get his foot into the rehab door. I don't know....sorry for blabbing on here. And thank you for the Salvation Army suggestion, but I know for sure he won't commit to a 6 month plan at this point. So I guess I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing...........feeling helpless. Thanks!