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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: houston texas
Posts: 4 Alls not the same
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If I had an afair with my secretery and my wife found out about it she would naturaly be devistated. If I told her it was over but I have decided to keep my secretary, work with her every day and have learned to be just freiends with her my wife would still never feel comfortable and would probubly question my motives.
With that said, my wife who is an alcoholic and is haveing an ongoing affair with a man at her AA meetings, jurnals constantly about him in every detail and also jurnals about how much she dislicks me. I have even caught her lying about not being at the same meeting with him and what she writes in her jurnals. SHe is told by her sponcer and other new found friends in her group that this is very natural and she sould just try to work on it but I will have to fend for myself on how I feel about it. She is also told that she sould not go to other meetings but should work on the problem and become freinds in a healthy way with this fellow. She has told me if she goes to another meeting she will simply find another man but nothing she does has anything to do with me, it is part of the sickness.
Am I missing something here? It is important to know I have 18 years of subriety over my drug addition thry AA and at no time was I ever unfaithful to my wife in thought word or dead to include the entire 25 years we have been warried.
It is also important to understand she has had mutiple affairs with other men over the last 6 months. Remenber she has only been sober for 45 days but tells me what she is doing now is different and just something that is going to happen.
She has told this fellow that in 6 months she would concider being with him as opposed to me and writes it in her journal frequently (yes I have read it).
Again she quite coldly says her sponcer and freinds tell her she has to work on but not to get into with me or make any decitions for her first year. So I am to just simply wait, get help and understand?
Whats wrong with this picture!?
Sorry for the spelling......have been suffering over this for 6 months now...
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