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cindeelou · 05-24-2003, 09:02 PM

My husband is bi-polar. I've been with him for 13 yrs this June and he has been sober for over 15yrs. Unfortunately, he thought when he stopped drinking so would his problems but that would not be the case with an illness like bi-polar disorder. He is mostly manic and his depression when it does hit never gets to suicidal. However, his mania leads to affective disorder and he gets dilusional.

I am currently 6-1/2 months pg with our first child and this has been a very long and grueling episode. I'm sure the pressure of the baby is what is doing it to him this time. Plus I have been going thru this pregnancy myself since he is just not there for me or rather can't be at this time.

To make a long story as short as I can. He started to get manic around the end of March and it hasn't subsided. The end of April he left our home and was missing for 3 days with the car. The MTA police finally found him on the RR tracks doing something with the signals. The saw my missing persons report and brought him to a hospital instead of jail.

Our car was finally located using low jack since he had no idea where he had abandoned it.

His psychiatrist whom he has been with for almost 6 yrs changed his meds and put him on Lithium and he is also on Navane (he has been on navane consistently for years). They released him from the hospital after only 7 days and he came home and never got better. In fact, he got worse. Then another day he left again and never returned that night. He did return the next day (SOMETHING HE NEVER DONE IN 12 YEARS EVEN WHEN HE WAS MANIC B4). In the past, he has been hypo manic and functioning and only last for about a month.

Now he is back in the hospital and they will monitor him and hopefully get him back to himself. He is also VERY angry at me and blames me for everything. He also doesn't believe he belongs in the hospital. This time I refuse to take him out b4 I feel he is ready.

My husband was so angry and rude to me yesterday that I told him nicely that he should call me when he wants to see me. He has my number. He is saying such mean things to me and cut our visit short anyway by walking away and telling me to go home and that I'm only good for cigarettes and coffee.

My parents also feel I should stay away and let him come back to himself and then he will call.

I want to know what you think? There are a lot of bi-polar people who write on this board and I'm sure you know when you are in that state how you behave. Am I doing the right thing?

Thanks so much. Any advice or encouragement would be welcome.

05-24-2003, 09:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
cindeelou Paused Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Huntington, NY Posts: 3	Would Like Some Opinions My husband is bi-polar. I've been with him for 13 yrs this June and he has been sober for over 15yrs. Unfortunately, he thought when he stopped drinking so would his problems but that would not be the case with an illness like bi-polar disorder. He is mostly manic and his depression when it does hit never gets to suicidal. However, his mania leads to affective disorder and he gets dilusional. I am currently 6-1/2 months pg with our first child and this has been a very long and grueling episode. I'm sure the pressure of the baby is what is doing it to him this time. Plus I have been going thru this pregnancy myself since he is just not there for me or rather can't be at this time. To make a long story as short as I can. He started to get manic around the end of March and it hasn't subsided. The end of April he left our home and was missing for 3 days with the car. The MTA police finally found him on the RR tracks doing something with the signals. The saw my missing persons report and brought him to a hospital instead of jail. Our car was finally located using low jack since he had no idea where he had abandoned it. His psychiatrist whom he has been with for almost 6 yrs changed his meds and put him on Lithium and he is also on Navane (he has been on navane consistently for years). They released him from the hospital after only 7 days and he came home and never got better. In fact, he got worse. Then another day he left again and never returned that night. He did return the next day (SOMETHING HE NEVER DONE IN 12 YEARS EVEN WHEN HE WAS MANIC B4). In the past, he has been hypo manic and functioning and only last for about a month. Now he is back in the hospital and they will monitor him and hopefully get him back to himself. He is also VERY angry at me and blames me for everything. He also doesn't believe he belongs in the hospital. This time I refuse to take him out b4 I feel he is ready. My husband was so angry and rude to me yesterday that I told him nicely that he should call me when he wants to see me. He has my number. He is saying such mean things to me and cut our visit short anyway by walking away and telling me to go home and that I'm only good for cigarettes and coffee. My parents also feel I should stay away and let him come back to himself and then he will call. I want to know what you think? There are a lot of bi-polar people who write on this board and I'm sure you know when you are in that state how you behave. Am I doing the right thing? Thanks so much. Any advice or encouragement would be welcome.