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My issues, my problems, my denial, and where I don't want to accept the truth that it is my-self that needs deal with things... I will blame you.

Fully understand that his one liners and attitude that he directs at you are not because of you. His denial and lack of acceptance has him not go to meetings and has him push the blame on others.

You didn't cause it.
You can't fix it.
His issues are his and he will need to accept them and want change before he will change.