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shutterbug · 02-26-2006, 06:30 PM

interesting enough...a friend spent about 30 minutes describing passive-agressive behavior to me last night.

She said it's basically when people show emotions (usually disapproval) without generally saying any words that would indicate the person's disapproval.

Like my dad, for example when I was a teenager, would always sigh and look down and shake his head and other things when he didn't like what he's just heard or seen. Instead of saying...would you please not leave your books on the table any more.....what he would do is when he walked into the room he would stop at the sight of the books on the table and sigh and look down shaking his head and then walk off.

When he did and does do that....if say I'm sitting right there in the room....it feels horrible to have him do that...as if saying what a disqusting and horrible daughter he has when he could have simply and kindly reminded me not to do that any more.

Make sense?
He didn't SAY anything!
But what he says without words is a LOT more harsh on the recipricant than words would be....yet you can never say back to them, "But dad you told me not to put my books on the table any more!"

See....this way....how frustrating it is to the recipricant?

02-26-2006, 06:30 PM	#5 (permalink)
shutterbug A picture's worth a 1000 words Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: With any luck, I'm lost in a view finder Posts: 2,947 Blog Entries: 5	interesting enough...a friend spent about 30 minutes describing passive-agressive behavior to me last night. She said it's basically when people show emotions (usually disapproval) without generally saying any words that would indicate the person's disapproval. Like my dad, for example when I was a teenager, would always sigh and look down and shake his head and other things when he didn't like what he's just heard or seen. Instead of saying...would you please not leave your books on the table any more.....what he would do is when he walked into the room he would stop at the sight of the books on the table and sigh and look down shaking his head and then walk off. When he did and does do that....if say I'm sitting right there in the room....it feels horrible to have him do that...as if saying what a disqusting and horrible daughter he has when he could have simply and kindly reminded me not to do that any more. Make sense? He didn't SAY anything! But what he says without words is a LOT more harsh on the recipricant than words would be....yet you can never say back to them, "But dad you told me not to put my books on the table any more!" See....this way....how frustrating it is to the recipricant? __________________ I'M FINE!! Fanatically Insecure Neuratic & Emotional Bipolar/Depression support: 1-800-950-NAMI(6264).