Hi there Slow
I usually find that if I come across topics repeated in meetings , it must be what I am meant to hear
I could never understand the concept of "selfless" either , and still dont fully, but i came to realise that although I thought of myself as a "giving" and 'unselfish" person, that was not the case. I was totally consumed by ME, and could never see it . i worried about what people thought of ME, what they said about ME, wether they liked ME, if I could do anything for them which would make ME feel better, and on and on it went.
i have found it a good tool for me , to realise I am not that important, and often have to remind myself of the fact. Since I have done this , I find that I have developed , quite unconciously, a genuine concern for others , it is a different feeling altogether .
I am not explaining myself very well, but you might get something from it
HUGX
Lee