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equus · 02-14-2006, 05:12 AM

I've always struggled with the notion of 'falling' in love. I can't imagine love as a puddle, hole, or even a pile of fluffy pink feathers - nothing which it would be possible to fall into!!

I think love at it's most real is a verb - the feelings are the pleasure of the doing and a big signal that it's a core task of human nature. When I look at the percieved 'pain' of love it seems to me the pain isn't from it's verb attributes, the pain doesn't come from the giving or doing of love, more the expectations we have that may have motivated us primarily for ourselves.

In it's purest form I believe it's the feeling of absolute worth of another and actions that demonstrate that belief. In the moment a skylark sings I know it's worth, absolute beauty, my pleasure in it is bound to my attention to it, my love for it goes out and no harm can come to me because of that love.

I've come to think my task is to love people the same way, without ownership, without the 'MY' 'MINE'.

02-14-2006, 05:12 AM	#3 (permalink)
equus Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: uk Posts: 3,056	I've always struggled with the notion of 'falling' in love. I can't imagine love as a puddle, hole, or even a pile of fluffy pink feathers - nothing which it would be possible to fall into!! I think love at it's most real is a verb - the feelings are the pleasure of the doing and a big signal that it's a core task of human nature. When I look at the percieved 'pain' of love it seems to me the pain isn't from it's verb attributes, the pain doesn't come from the giving or doing of love, more the expectations we have that may have motivated us primarily for ourselves. In it's purest form I believe it's the feeling of absolute worth of another and actions that demonstrate that belief. In the moment a skylark sings I know it's worth, absolute beauty, my pleasure in it is bound to my attention to it, my love for it goes out and no harm can come to me because of that love. I've come to think my task is to love people the same way, without ownership, without the 'MY' 'MINE'.