Taking Xanax to "counteract" the effects of alcohol is sheer madness. The effects are additive, not opposite. It's very dangerous to mix alcohol and benzos.
I know what you mean about the changing. My first husband was what I call a Jekyll-and-Hyde drunk. I think that your boyfriend is still in active addiction and as long as he is, you're always going to be on edge wondering when the next bad thing is going to happen. That's how it was for me anyway.
Do check out a meeting soon. And keep checking in here, too. I have to run now, but I'll try to get back later. Have a good day!!
Love and hugs,
Eddie
