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Originally Posted by splendra Why is he a bit controling? What does he seek to gain from controling you? Those comments made in anger...where do they come from? And how do you know what a person that you have known for only a few months is capible of? Great sex does not equal love. When someone you are having great sex with also makes life hell something is off somewhere. You have never had this kind of relationship...uhhh do you mean that sex has never been this good? |
It's good that you ask these questions. At least I have to think about things before I answer them.
He is controlling in the way that I can't really much on my own...he wants to do everything with me - run errands, do laundry etc. He also needs to be able to reach me at all times and if he can't he freaks. Which is why I am finding it hard to attend a meeting without telling him. I should just tell him I guess.
What does he seek to gain? Hmmm...maybe he wants me to rely totally on him? I am not sure. I guess he must be somewhat insecure if he is like this. I was always very independant and used to do EVERYTHING alone. When I was sick with 102 fever I was alone.
The comments made in anger? That I don't know... Maybe he is trying to intimidate me to regain control because he feels he doesn't have it?
It's not about the sex for me. It's the fact that he will stop by the store to pick up something I am out of when I didn't even ask. Or that he will get up to feed my cat during the night so the cat doesn't wake me. That he thinks I look hot in sweats with my hair a mess. That he will come meet me at work without a moments notice and bring me coffee. That he can make me laugh at myself and he can laugh at himself. That he wants to talk about everything and resolve problems before they become worse. That he has no problem accepting responsibility for his actions, apologizing and admitting when he is wrong. That he accepts me for who I am and that he is always there for me no matter what. I guess he is the first person who loved me for who I am - defects and all. And I feel the same way about him. I have never been this close to anyone before - ever. I never let people that I meet in.