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Hey Gaz...
Jenna said it all.
I know we want to focus on the situation.. and the individual...
round and round...
in our heads...
but.. that's what we have to stop.
that cycling in our heads...
for.. it does NOTHING in the real world.
When we get past our codependancy.... or.. begin to understand it anyway..
It's easy to see then that .. having to beg to be loved.. or.. feeling that we'er unlovable...
this all springs from a need within us ...
but.. this need is us needing us.
I'm not there for me.
And my body/psyche knows it... and it punishes me with hurtful feelings that do not go away as long as I think along this vein.
Like Jenna says...
read the other forums...
.. maybe seek out some face to face Alanon meetings...
Your going to get your head around all this if you just keep at it.
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