The same as a co-dependent thinks.
Co-dependendcy is an addiction. The cycle of destruction is the same.
If you grew up around alcoholism or married into it, you are
effected. You can divorce or end the realtionship that you are in
at the moment....You'll somehow marry the exact same person
with the same personallity triats in the future. Unless you get well.
Different name/body but still the same person.
Co-dependcy is actually more cunning. Becuase the co-dependent
plays the role of the victim, or innocent.
However a co-depedent still see through a twist pair of lens.
It takes two to mingle, opposite attracts.
An example
A HELPER...that's a great role to play. The hero, center of attention,
gets all the praise. This still feeds the disease/cycle/ego.
TO be a helper you need a sick person to play with.
Subconciouly the codependent might be doing it without knowing.
Becuase who would of think being nice person can be un healthy.
It's the same as most alcoholics...none of us really belive or thought
we we're alcoholics,addict or co-dependent.
"I'M a SICK PERSON TRYING TO GET WELL"
It's directed toward more to the co-dependent.
A co-dependent playing a role of a vitim will deem an acoholic as BAD
or not GOOD. That feeds the co-dependent DIS-EASE and on
gose the cycle of destructions.
The 12 steps for everybody effected/envolved are the same...hummmm??????