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Hi Wondergirl
I totally agree with Gabe, it's only your reaction you can change. My husband also has anger outbursts over what can be trivial stuff or when he's frustrated and I've learned (the hard way) the only thing to do is not to react or to remove myself till he gets over himself.
Sometimes it's really hard to bite your tongue esp if you feel the blaming is very unjustified, but I really think he gets a buzz out of the outbursts, so no response means no buzz.
Not saying I've cracked it, cos I hate angry scenes and get embarrassed when he explodes at someone else in public, but all I can do is not take the blame on board or at least work on doing that. He has a short fuse and sometimes after a meeting he will apologise for his behaviour.
I have to learn not to play the victim or martyr, or blame him right back, and then maybe we'll get somewhere.
Sophia
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