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hi m, my prayers are with you!
everyone that posted has some great input. my feelings as far as the kids are concerned are honesty! honesty is always the best policy.i was in a similar situation and believe me kids aren't stupid- that's not to say they need to know all the details but at the very least they should know that daddy is sick because that is the truth.
i feel that part of our sickness as codies is the covering up and i for one refuse to cover up and sugar coat things for my AH anymore.my AH is now sober and we are faced with different problems he wants to live together as parents and says the kids don't need to know that we don't have any kind of relationship between us. i feel he is once again asking me to lie for him and to cover up the truth.
personally i feel evreything we do is teaching our kids a lesson like yourself i have 4 kids, 3 of whom are girls and i certainly don't want to teach them that this is exceptable in relationships and this is what a wife is suppose to do! sometimes i think more importantly i don't want my son to learn that the way daddy behaves is acceptable for a husband and a father either.
soul catcher is dead on when she said that these things (even if small) can effect kids for the rest of their lives. i know they have in mine and in my AH's lives we both come from A homes and i feel we both learned how to live and react as a direct result from our dysfunctional upbringing! it's time to break the cycle!
my prayers are with you good luck!
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