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**Ann** · 04-28-2003, 01:27 PM

Hi Michael

I know many people feel "HE is the one with the problem, why should "I" have to do anything?" And the answer is that they don't have to do anything, but they will do themselves and the relationship a favour if they at least read some of the stuff suggested above.

It took me a long time to realize just how much I had been affected by my son's addiction, and the regardless of whether he stayed clean or not, that I needed to address my own issues.

Al-Anon or any 12-step are not for everyone, although for me it was a lifesavere. But many recovery through other methods, reading, counselling, and other self-help methods.

It takes a long time to heal, for you and for her, from the wounds that were opened the past number of years. My prayers go out for both of you that you can find the recovery and peace that you seek.

04-28-2003, 01:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
Ann Sharing Our Light Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 15,161	Hi Michael I know many people feel "HE is the one with the problem, why should "I" have to do anything?" And the answer is that they don't have to do anything, but they will do themselves and the relationship a favour if they at least read some of the stuff suggested above. It took me a long time to realize just how much I had been affected by my son's addiction, and the regardless of whether he stayed clean or not, that I needed to address my own issues. Al-Anon or any 12-step are not for everyone, although for me it was a lifesavere. But many recovery through other methods, reading, counselling, and other self-help methods. It takes a long time to heal, for you and for her, from the wounds that were opened the past number of years. My prayers go out for both of you that you can find the recovery and peace that you seek. __________________ Somewhere between the gator swamp and the Taj Mahal there is a path, it may be hidden, overgrown or may blend in with the other surroundings, but it is there, it's your path and it is calling you.~Frankly~