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Being a recovered alcoholic and being a guy... a sixth sense is saying to me...he can't be or maybe better said, shouldn't be trusted. Sneak around and hush hush. First thing I would do...check and see if he is married.
If it is ment to be and he has any respect for you at all, he would listen when you say.... this is going to fast and you need to back off.

Any time someone needs to sneak around and remain hush hush, there is a reason for it.

shhhh don't tell anyone (because those who know me may tell you things I don't want you to know)
shhhh don't tell anyone (because if I work this right, I can pull the wool over your eyes and others would just get in the way)

Then again... his intentions may be all honorable but hey.. he is a guy and so am I... there may be other motives for his actions or inactions.