| I've been 13th stepped / In need of advice
Well, I never thought this would happen to me, but I do believe I've been 13th stepped by someone whose intention with me was less than honorable.
He has 10 years of sobriety and I have a couple of months, although I had five months before that, and two years a long time ago in the program, so technically I don't view myself as a newcomer.
At any rate, he came on pretty aggressively and things got a bit out of hand, although I didn't sleep with him (thank God). However, he's called me twice in 10 days and I've seen him at meetings and it's been quite ackward. Thing is, he told me he wanted a relationship with me and was concerned that someone would give him a hard time at the club, if they knew he was involved with a newcomer, so he wanted to keep things "quiet." I told him that while I wasn't about to advertise anything, I wasn't going to be dishonest either.
So...I can't figure out what the heck is going on. I invited him over for dinner in a couple of days so I'll set the record straight at that time. I know I shouldn't "go there," but I find the one year rule to be really stupid, considering I've been around the rooms for 25 plus years and know the ropes. However, I am also aware I may not be the only one he's gotten involved with, I live very close to that club and am not about to not go there, and I do want to be comfortable there. Any advice short of just tell him NO, even though I think I see the writing on the wall and I'll end up doing that anyway? I sure wish he hadn't been so pushy and I sure wish we'd started off slowly just as friends. Thanks.
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