You sound exactly how I used to feel. I think my problem was denial. My husband is the same as yours. Not real supportive of AA. Not sure why. But, there are other ways.
It took me deciding that my life was more valuable than my marriage and I stood up to him. It has not always been easy, but we are still together.
Do you hide your drinking from your husband? Just curious.
keep on coming back to SR and hang in there.
xoxoxo
Ang