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How well I know the feeling. First thing you need to do is get all your ducks in a row and plan plan plan. Even being married you can get Govt assistance and child support. You may find out that for him to avoid paying so much child support he might agree to let you live there and HE can find a place to stay. I am seperated and have been for four years and that's what we do. It was always supposed to be temporary until after he got help but he has never gotten help. So I still live in the house and he works and pays our bills. He has an apartment and go about my day better then before. I also have a part time, temp job working as a sub at my girls school. It's not much money but it's a foot in the door. Plus...if your on govt assistance they will put you through their school and give you a free education like secretarial or banking or computers, ect.
I know how hard it is to ponder right now but don't look at the big end picture. Just start tomorrow putting your ducks in a row and make a plan. After you start to follow through with alot of it you will feel so empowered and wonder why you didn't leave sooner.
You kids shouldn't have to leave the house. You can get an attorney through the govt (legal aide) and in the papers you can ask and probably get the house and the child suppport will figure in his HALF of the mortgage, if not more. He'll pay or he'll go to jail. I'm sure it's easier to let you stay in the house. They also usually don't hate their kids and don't want them out of the house, they will leave first. Not always must mostly.
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