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Maybe you should try and catch a few nar anon or al anon meetings and ask around there also. It's a tough situation because you don't want to talk bad about him and kids don't understand "daddy is sick" they think he can quit if he loves them....remember all the things YOU felt dealing with him, now think if you were ten how your mind would register those feelings and emotions. Your job is to protect them. Ten is young but not to young to know about drugs and alcohol. I think I would explain all that first and if "daddy" keeps up this way of life then you'll know if your ten year old is ready to hear it by the way he/she reacts to the first talk.
You may not see it like this but I look at this as "abuse" to the kids. They have a drug addicted father and because of that it is emotionally and mentally scarring the kids. I had to get my A out of the house and fast to protect them and things are WAY better for them. They were being abused by them seeing daddy fall down or pass out and not understanding why daddy was sleeping and slurring and not paying them any attention. They seen daddy yell at mommy and vice versa when there was no other reason then drugs or alcohol being involved. I had to get them away from that or I was to blame just as well for the abuse because I was allowing it to happen. My A wouldn't do it every night but maybe once a month and for us we forget things and let them pass but to a child that one tiny moment could scar them for the REST of their lives. So that's what I protect my children from is that ONE TINY CATASTROPHIC MOMENT. I hope you find a way to reach your children so they are safe. Keep them little as long as you can. Good luck.
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