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Gideon · 12-01-2005, 07:34 PM

Got back from my first "real" meeting. Had tried it once before but that was under threat of death from my girlfriend. I was not there for the right reason and I was not serious about the whole thing. I went around the block a few times before getting the courage to enter, this is telling since I am on crutches. Timed my entrance to avoid pre-meeting small talk. However, it wasn't like a work function in that the smiles were not forced.

I was pleasantly surprised like I was with this forum. REALLY NICE BUNCH OF FOLKS. I followed through with my plan and the advice given here and just asked if I could sit and listen, everyone was cool with that. Again, alot of the words struck a chord with me, guess that is why it has been referred to here as a fellowship, a collection of people while different in there own way have been in similar situations. Someone who hasn't looked through the prism of addicted eyes cannot really know what it is like.

Truth be told the idea of surrrendering and changing everything is alot, but I am not going to dwell on that. Sitting in a room with strangers is enough to reflect on for now. No one seemed to want to force ideas down anyone's throat. I have read alot of threads here and I understand each meeting is unique, this is just my take from this particular meeting on this particular night, nothing more.

I am up for going again and will do so. One question, it seemed that a group response to someone worrying about the future was "don't project." A nice woman tried to explain it a bit to me afterwards. It basically boiled down to planning and not projecting. I must confess I did not fully understand despite the attempted explanation. Does anyone have a view?

Oh yeah, thanks for the replies and advice.

Regards,

PS livenletlive, cool avatar!

12-01-2005, 07:34 PM	#7 (permalink)
Gideon Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Northeast, USA Posts: 39	tried it Got back from my first "real" meeting. Had tried it once before but that was under threat of death from my girlfriend. I was not there for the right reason and I was not serious about the whole thing. I went around the block a few times before getting the courage to enter, this is telling since I am on crutches. Timed my entrance to avoid pre-meeting small talk. However, it wasn't like a work function in that the smiles were not forced. I was pleasantly surprised like I was with this forum. REALLY NICE BUNCH OF FOLKS. I followed through with my plan and the advice given here and just asked if I could sit and listen, everyone was cool with that. Again, alot of the words struck a chord with me, guess that is why it has been referred to here as a fellowship, a collection of people while different in there own way have been in similar situations. Someone who hasn't looked through the prism of addicted eyes cannot really know what it is like. Truth be told the idea of surrrendering and changing everything is alot, but I am not going to dwell on that. Sitting in a room with strangers is enough to reflect on for now. No one seemed to want to force ideas down anyone's throat. I have read alot of threads here and I understand each meeting is unique, this is just my take from this particular meeting on this particular night, nothing more. I am up for going again and will do so. One question, it seemed that a group response to someone worrying about the future was "don't project." A nice woman tried to explain it a bit to me afterwards. It basically boiled down to planning and not projecting. I must confess I did not fully understand despite the attempted explanation. Does anyone have a view? Oh yeah, thanks for the replies and advice. Regards, PS livenletlive, cool avatar!