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Originally Posted by Phinneas ... How do you organize it?.... |
There's lots of different ways of doing a fourth. As others have said, keep it simple. Think of the word "inventory", and then think of a small business trying to make a list of all it's assests and debts. What works for me is to just make a _list_. First a list of people, places and things that bring up strong emotions. Then another list of all those emotions, which I can quickly simplify to just a few emotions repeated over and over again. Then a third list of what expectations I have about those people, places and things that causes those emotions. Then a fourth list of what specific actions I can take to prevent the negative emotions from getting started in the first place, and increase the positive emotions.
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Originally Posted by Phinneas ... Where do I start? ... |
Start at the beginning of your disease. Which is _you_. You are a person about which you have a lot of emotions, both positive and negative. Write those down in a list. Then write down what expectations you have of yourself that you are meeting or not meeting that causes those feelings to come up. Then make a list of what actions _you_ can take to prevent the negative and increase the postive.
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Originally Posted by Phinneas ... How long should I allow?.... |
A couple hours. Get it all out no matter how short or incomplete. You can always go back after you've done the fifth and focus on just one issue that give you a lot of trouble. You can repeat the "maintenance" steps 4 thru 9 as many times as you need.
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Originally Posted by Phinneas ... I am going to just take a deep breathe and dive in. Wish me luck! ... |
Go for it :-)
If you want to be really anal about it, check out the Al-Anon 4th step. It requires very few changes to be useful for any other addiction.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/091...lance&n=283155
Mike :-)