I am really sorry you have lent him money, unfortunatley I don't think you will get it back. Learn this lesson and walk away. Be very leary about lending money to anyone, even friends and family. I would quit contacting him and if he contacts you again, ignore him and move on. He is no friend of yours. He only wants stuff from you that will benefit him. You say you need the money back and I'm sure he could care less that have financial needs.