[Don W]

I'm not sure of the ansers but, from expernce a relationship can't be built on mistrust and checking on the other's phone messages. To live under these conditions are not provide the daughter with a " Normal Life." Maybe a marrige counselor could help. I've found out that there are different issues that need different treatment. Your wife's Bi-polar treatment won't solve the relationship problem. My wife and I got caught on this. We were having problems along with my alcoholism. We felt, that if I got better we'd get better. We still have some of the communication problems, the only difference is the removal of the alcohol. If she won't join you, seek help yourself. You've got some difficult decisions to make but, to live under these conditions are helping nobody.