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If we set a boundary and expect the other person to abide by it,automatically-then we are setting ourselves up to be a victim of our expectations...
Yupper i fell into this one big time,and was shocked,lol..Not use to actually setting up boundaires,here..Most folks ive come across,its a natural thingy.flowing,,boundaires,.But there are always those very few folks,that no matter what i say,or do,goes on deaf ears.If i dont accept their "stuff",then im called all kinds of names,,lol.Oh boy.But rather than be shocked,cause my boundaires sounded good to me,and not them,i should have expected their contarieness.Because this is their actions that they have showed me all along....I use to think setting boundaires was being cruel.After a very bad experience,i today feel that its cruel not to.Heard the other day,that setting boundaires is protecting you from me,,lol..
Great Topic,Minnie
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