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Jazzman · 11-11-2005, 04:45 AM

"If we set a boundary and expect the other person to abide by it automatically - then we are setting ourselves up to be a victim of our expectation."

Wow! That one hit me like a 2x4 upside the head! I think I "assumed" most people have approximately the same boundaries, and communicating these boundaries with my SO was not so much a big deal.

11-11-2005, 04:45 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jazzman Occasional poor taste poster Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Back of the class, Northern VA Posts: 2,255	"If we set a boundary and expect the other person to abide by it automatically - then we are setting ourselves up to be a victim of our expectation." Wow! That one hit me like a 2x4 upside the head! I think I "assumed" most people have approximately the same boundaries, and communicating these boundaries with my SO was not so much a big deal.